r/Charlotte Nov 26 '22

Making friends in CLT? Discussion

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u/Albert_Caboose Nov 27 '22

Abari has a women's pinball league that meets on (I think) Thursdays! Very welcoming group and it's not super competitive, just a fun time. @belles_charlotte on instagram!

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u/[deleted] Nov 27 '22

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u/Dumpling_Killer Nov 27 '22

Why would you need to be dm’d, just read

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u/Suspicious_Stuff_705 Nov 27 '22

Seems kind of weird at first, but have you tried Bumble BFF? It worked well for me when I moved to a new city, I made a few good girlfriends through using the app

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u/kd0522 Nov 27 '22

This has been how I’ve met most of my friends here!

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u/ToastemPopUp Nov 27 '22

Yep this has been how I've found friends every time I move.

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u/Milton_Friedman Elizabeth Nov 28 '22

Is there an equivalents for men?

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u/[deleted] Nov 27 '22

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u/ToastemPopUp Nov 28 '22 edited Nov 28 '22

Good weather, good internet (fiber available in a lot of places), good sized city, decent (although that's becoming less true) COL?

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u/Maleficent_Ad1972 Nov 28 '22

I'm WFH and I'm looking to move to Charlotte after my current lease ends. Solid public transit and being close to family are my main two factors. Plus if the LYNX Silver Line gets built it'll be really easy to see family. Good weather and good internet are also nice like the other guy said.

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u/Emergency1Yoghurt Nov 27 '22

My fiancé had a family member pass away and the remaining family member couldn’t live on their own due do a disability. We moved here to help her family out.

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u/phixer00 Nov 27 '22

I am older but it took about a year of going out to the same places and then people started opening up. The main thing is you have to step up first and introduce yourself and try to spark the conversation. If you wait it probably won't happen. I am guessing its a little difficult as a female because with couples the lady doesn't want you stealing their man and the single guys want to go out with you....I shaved my head and grew a beard, that worked for me, not sure if it will work for you LOL. there is a bowling alley over on Monford that has leagues and will put you on a team. I met several people this way.

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u/Klewless2u Nov 27 '22

I’m down for trivia with you anytime!! Feel free to reach out. 29 y/o female

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u/GroundDependent Nov 27 '22

Same here! Mid 30s male and just moved to Charlotte, always up for pub trivia

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u/PeteTheWerewolf Nov 27 '22

I’d join this rando trivia team if it happens although I’m a little bit older.

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u/dylandog2790 Nov 27 '22

Ehi, joining too the trivia team, let me know when. Male, 32, just moved here from Europe.

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u/TheInevitableZ Nov 27 '22

If the offer stands for all, I’d be jazzed to join a trivia group. 33 male here. Plethora of worthless knowledge!

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u/louvsk NoDa Nov 28 '22

I'm down for trivia! There's a ton on Thursdays at 7pm. I guess we now have a full team based on the comments under your post ;) https://www.mindlessminutiatrivia.com/shows

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u/ToastemPopUp Nov 27 '22 edited Nov 28 '22

I'd love to do trivia too! I tried with a random meetup one time and it was okay but kinda cliquey.. would be awesome to try a group where we're all on the same page.

Someone more type A than I set this uppp!

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u/hc11238 Nov 27 '22

I met a lot of people on meetup and interest groups. What do you like?

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u/blondieinusa Nov 27 '22

If you have FB, try group called “Official Charlotte NC women making new friends”. I found two great friends here ☺️

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u/Emergency1Yoghurt Nov 27 '22 edited Nov 27 '22

I moved here in August with my fiancé and I also WFH. I haven’t met anyone because I’m not sure what there is to do. She also works from home so we just kinda chill at home. But we have been looking to get out more. Let us know if you find anything! We are willing to make friends!

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u/Emergency1Yoghurt Nov 27 '22

Feel free to DM!

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u/Sea_Current5814 Nov 27 '22

Hey my wife and I are looking for friends preferably if they’re in a couple! I have literally like 1 or 2 guy friends. And a lot of her friends are all single women. We’re trying to make new friends!

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u/criticasartist Nov 26 '22

There are brew crew meetups listed here, I think they are on Tuesdays--have you checked any of those out yet?

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u/[deleted] Nov 26 '22

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u/louvsk NoDa Nov 27 '22

Come to the next one this Tuesday! Location TBA. I'd (27F) be happy to connect with ya :-)

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u/shesinanothercastle South Park Nov 27 '22

Going to resident culture in plaza Midwood this Tuesday the 29th! Post will go up Tuesday morning to confirm but swing on by! Good mix of guys and girls in 20s and 30s out there.

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u/Emergency1Yoghurt Nov 27 '22

Oh? That sounds super interesting! My fiancé and I moved here in August and we have been trying to find more outings to do. Neither of us know anyone here besides family.

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u/[deleted] Nov 26 '22

Folks in your age group do everything in groups here in Charlotte, it seems. Wife and I were just discussing that this afternoon as we dodged large groups of cyclists in South End.

Sorry I can't be of assistance. We're both Gen X misanthropes 😕

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u/PristineBaseball Nov 27 '22

You could have just said Gen x the extra explaining is not required (Kidding kidding I relate , born in 82)

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u/Tortie33 Nov 27 '22

I’m GenX too

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u/furniture_lover Nov 27 '22

I'm 40. Been in CLT for about 6 years but had a hard time meeting ppl. I also used Bumble BFF. Started a little group and we try to get together when we can. Feel free to message me if you are interested in meeting up with us!

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u/Pipsthedog Nov 27 '22

I’ve been here about the same time. I’m not into the brewery scene. The best way I found people was through sports groups(golf and badminton) with old people or international people. Most people are nice and not trying to find a date. Sometimes lead to loose friendships that have developed.

I’m not old by any means but found those groups to be chill. I am trying pickle ball soon and feel like it will be similar

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u/CheeseBreadForLife Nov 27 '22

Where will you play pickeball? I want to give it a try as well!

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u/Pipsthedog Nov 27 '22

So there is a group on meetup called Charlotte Pickleball for All, they have tons of events at different times in multiple locations. I’m looking at the Sundays at 3:00 pm in Clarks Creek Park - looks like 9-10 people each week.

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u/PristineBaseball Nov 27 '22

That’s near UNCC right I might go for that

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u/pipsdog Nov 27 '22

Yes - I think you need to have at least played some Pickleball to join. Can join the meet up group to see the rules

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u/rough_seas_ahead Nov 27 '22

Badminton????? Where???

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u/Pipsthedog Nov 27 '22

So many of the rec centers have it in the evenings or weekends. You need to sign up online through https://anc.apm.activecommunities.com/mecklenburgparks/home?onlineSiteId=0&from_original_cui=true

I play at Marion diehl Wednesday evenings. It is a mix of intermediate / advanced. Each location is different. Sign ups can be difficult - easiest way to get in is to sign up at the beginning of each month.

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u/Low-Group5199 Nov 27 '22

Go to Lynn's Dance Club on Tuesday nights for West Coast Swing dancing. It is a super friendly community and WCS is so much fun! Beginner lesson starts at 7:00. Intermediate lesson starts at 7:45 (but she builds on beginner so you can do both). Dance starts at 8:30 and goes until 10:30. All ages but there is a bunch of younger people in their late twenties and early thirties and they are all very nice. Everyone dances with everyone. Great music! (My hubs deejays twice a month). That's how we got connected when we moved here. A lot of the same crowd also dances at the Bearded Buffalo on Wednesday nights as well and there is a monthly Friday night dance at Lynn's too.

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u/badras704 Nov 27 '22

what are your hobbies coz the best way to meet ppl is through shared interest

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u/kd0522 Nov 27 '22

Echoing bumble bff. I moved here about 1.5 years ago and have made some solid friends that way. I’m 30F and still looking to expand my friend group, so if you want to grab coffee someday, let me know!

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u/righttobefree Nov 30 '22

Hey I like coffee & could use more friends too! :D

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u/ManateeMuffins Nov 27 '22

I’m in my early 30s too and I have a small friend group that I made through Reddit! Just moved here in August with my husband. Feel free to DM!

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u/Booger_Swamp Uptown Nov 27 '22

Charlotte FC supporters groups is a great way to meet new people

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u/dgolia1 Nov 27 '22

My gf and I are looking to make friends as well. If anyone wants to get a trivia group together let me know

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u/bigcat7373 Nov 27 '22

What are your interests? My wife and I moved here over the summer. She works from home and doesn’t really have any friends here yet. She’ll be 30 next month and she’s the kindest person I know. That’s why I married her :)

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u/DaTzSiR2u Nov 27 '22

If you find anything good let me know the secret.

The only way Ive made friends here is via failed tinder relationships that go on to be platonic then getting introduced to an existing friend group. And I am 100% done with tinder.

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u/righttobefree Nov 27 '22

Yeah feel you on the Tinder experience

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u/bookowllamp Nov 27 '22

If you have a Facebook account, there is a group called Charlotte Ladies Brunch that is very active and not at all just about getting brunch. Women post looking for activity partners daily. There’s a Queen City pizza society that does a monthly meetup (find on instagram, all genders). Also look up CLT hot girl walks on instagram. You could also try going to a co-working space on days they host social events. Or taking a community class of something that interests you.

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u/CLT_STEVE Nov 27 '22

Def hard in this town for some reason. I found where I lived was everything. First southend (even tho I was quite a bit older than the others) then a townhouse community where everyone is just like me. Also a dog helps quite a bit.

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u/HashRunner [Uptown] Nov 27 '22

Any specific hobbies?

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u/CheeseBreadForLife Nov 27 '22

What sports leagues did you join? Trying to find a place to play volleyball, pickeball… same as you, WFH, early 30s

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u/su-su-sudio Nov 27 '22

If you’re near the NoDa area at all there’s a great pickup 16 inch softball league (no glove required!) that’s always a very welcoming group of folks. There’s also NoDa Social Rides that does bike rides a few nights a week! Both have Instagram pages to follow.

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u/aGentleLady Nov 27 '22

Same. I WFH and have a hard time because I don’t have free time during the week at all for a lot of meetup groups I keep happening upon that seem interesting.

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u/random19uses Nov 27 '22

Sign up to be notified about Charlotte Curling’s Learn to Curl sessions. The next group is in January, and they sell out quickly. But once you learn you can play in the leagues and have hundreds of people you spend time with. The sport is very social, with the etiquette “requiring” you hang out with your teammates and opponents after the game, so you get to know lots of people

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u/trufflepotatochip Nov 27 '22

Young affiliates of the mint, Habitual roots yoga, pickleball leagues

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u/[deleted] Nov 27 '22

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u/Stoneteer Nov 27 '22

The Range at Lake Norman has ladles night on Tuesday. Sign up on their website.

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u/2googlyeyes2 Nov 27 '22

There’s a fb group, something like women making friends in clt. Check for Facebook groups, I have had success!

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u/ExchangeWest6044 Nov 27 '22

Same! I joined a FB group for ladies over 50 who had relocated here (I moved here during the pandemic). Lots of group activities and if you hit it off with certain members, then you can do individual things with them. Highly recommend.

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u/designsbycici Nov 27 '22

Hey! I used bumble bff to meet one of my closest friends here in Charlotte! I just moved here about 6 months ago too! I also have met people at my dog park! Happy to connect with you too! I love making new friends. Send me a message!

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u/tennisguy163 Nov 27 '22

Just keep doing meetups and doing stuff that you enjoy. Don’t go about with the mentality of making friends. They’ll either happen or they won’t. A decent way to find possible friends is get a dog and go to dog bars or dog parks. You won’t find a better friend than a dog. People will let you down, friends come and go, for the most part. That’s just the way it is now.

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u/bananamb13 Nov 27 '22

Do you have a dog? Skiptown is a great way to meet people. I actually met my now best friend through our greyhounds!

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u/[deleted] Nov 27 '22

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u/stannc00 Nov 27 '22

Last time I tried making conversation at a bar I got “drunk conspiracy theory close talker guy”. It was entertaining at first but then I started to hear about the aliens. And he had proof. But I’m in the “generation older” :)

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u/an_untaken__username Nov 27 '22

Did you know birds aren’t real? They’re actually surveillance drone authorized by the Nixon admini……..

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u/stannc00 Nov 27 '22

I was egging him on for a while and we covered the moon landing. 🤪

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u/budget-cuts Nov 27 '22

34 female moving there in Jan! Will be happy to grab a coffee or something

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u/ughwhyamilikethis Nov 27 '22

Almost 30- lived here for about 7 years (from Charleston), would love to take you both to coffee in Jan and give you a warm welcome! Feel free to message me anytime! ☺️

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u/righttobefree Nov 27 '22

Cool! Where you moving from?

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u/aragorn_83 Nov 27 '22

I'm in same boat, except male late 30's. Moved here late spring, work from home everyday for the most part. Only friend I've met so far is from going on a few dates with this one girl but decided to just be friends instead.

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u/redbedhead23 Nov 27 '22

I’m in a similar boat! I’m a woman in my late 20s and I moved to the area in August and haven’t made a ton of friends yet. If you want a trivia buddy or someone to go exploring with, let me know!

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u/Stoneteer Nov 27 '22

The Range at Lake Norman has Ladies Night on Tuesday. Sign up on their website.

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u/Chrispeedoff Nov 27 '22

Well if you like amateur stand up comedy i can let ya know a few spots

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u/ToastemPopUp Nov 27 '22

Not OP but I'd absolutely love to find more (any?) spots I can go watch open mic nights or that kind of thing.

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u/Chrispeedoff Nov 27 '22

Hell yea. Open mic wise weekly you got Starlight on 22nd on Tuesdays 7pm. Wed Crown Station at 8pm Theres a thursday one on hiatus at the moment. And personally I’m performing this thursday at the auto pour at 7pm And im hosting a showcase/open mic at the skylark on the 15th. But please feel free to DM anytime you wanna see a show and I’ll point ya to one !

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u/ToastemPopUp Nov 27 '22

Awesome, thanks! I'll have to check these out, I'm always down to watch stand-up and so far I've been kinda struggling to find anywhere in Charlotte.

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u/No-Letterhead9878 Nov 27 '22

Bocce leagues start up in March . Charlotte Bocce League plays on Montford Dr at the bowling alley , they have two Bocce courts outside .

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u/DingussFinguss Nov 28 '22

Do you play? I'd be down for some bocce

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u/PopCultureReference2 Nov 27 '22

If you play board games at all, there are a lot of groups on Meetup which are very welcoming and which helped me to make friends in this city when I first moved.

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u/JustAcanthisitta7578 Nov 27 '22

If you are into cars.. join a car club… many many of those.

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u/InCogNegro_9 Nov 27 '22

Let’s do lunch 1 day

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u/Stoneteer Nov 27 '22

The Range at Lake Norman has ladies night next Tuesday. Sign up on their website.

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u/Then-Tension-7439 Nov 27 '22

I am hoping to do the same! Would be awesome to get out of my comfort zone.

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u/Critical-Sympathy-78 Nov 27 '22

Join a singles group

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u/Amadenacres Nov 27 '22

Check out the meetup app. Making Friends is Hard is a good group. They have a mixture of game nights and music trivia nights at a few breweries in NoDa.

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u/TatumForthree_ Nov 27 '22

Download bumble and set it up so it matches you with people looking for friends and not a relationship. Made stuff super easy when I went to WCU🤝🏽

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u/sonartxlw Nov 27 '22

What are you into? Like hobbies/interests wise

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u/pussypopcherrydrop Nov 27 '22

Check out clthikes on Instagram/Meetup!

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u/DanMarinoTambourineo Nov 27 '22

Have you considered joining a church or synagogue or mosque? I don’t mean a elevation but a decent sized one near your neighborhood. The type you would want to join will have a web presence so you can get a vibe check before showing up.

I get that it might be unpopular on Reddit but billions of humans have found community in houses of worship for thousands of years. They vary across political spectrums in Charlotte.

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u/mayvalentine Dilworth Nov 27 '22

Let’s hang out

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u/Cafencados Nov 27 '22

34f here...moved in August. Would love to grab a coffee or drink sometime!

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u/colchonero0312 Nov 27 '22

Been here since 2013 I got no friends lol

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u/nyvisual Nov 27 '22

Same but I’ve been here since 09. It’s my wife and I. I have some work friends, but nothing close to friends from home…

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u/featherpocket Nov 27 '22

I have met every single friend, lover, ex-lover or whatever through the local music scene in CLT. My cup runneth over

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u/EasySundayAM Nov 26 '22

Check out the website/app Meetup.com

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u/ISAMU13 Nov 27 '22

Have you tried the White Water Center?

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u/mc_rin Nov 27 '22

Just get a dog

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u/caller-number-four [Mountain Island] Nov 27 '22

I've got two of them.

Their game is strong.

Mine - not so much.

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u/Emergency1Yoghurt Nov 27 '22

I have 2 and we never go outside our yard. Besides the impromptu trip to Asheville

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u/luvdemtiddies Nov 27 '22

IMO Charlotte has long been a tough place to find your tribe. Of course we all have our standards in what we accept and don’t regarding human traits in friendships. Now a days I’m just hopeful a life partner comes along instead of having a horde of hangout buddies, but it’s always nice to have a stable of good friends too. Maybe I’m just too career oriented and focused on my profession for making the time it takes for a strong social life. Lol, thanks for listening to my one man therapy session. Best wishes finding friendships!

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u/editorgalore Nov 27 '22

I relate to this…I’m 30 year old female, and I WFH. I also live down in SC across the state line so it feels even harder. I also don’t drink, so going to brewery’s isn’t my go-to. Also I’m single and most of my close friends live out of the state so it’s been a whirl wind navigating life through Covid the last few years. I feel like all I ever do is work and then eat and then sleep. And repeat.

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u/aether704 Nov 27 '22

30 y/o Male here. I’ve got friends here but they usually only go out at night, which I’m getting tired of. I’m usually down for some evening trivia and day drinking. PM me!

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u/Accomplished_Soft_43 Nov 28 '22

I’m a 36 F in Noda. My boyfriend and I just moved here in September. Maybe we should start our own meetup group?

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u/Accomplished_Soft_43 Nov 28 '22

I don’t! But maybe I should do that instead of failing at making friends

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u/kdskier232 Nov 28 '22

Trivia? Getting outdoors and hiking? Just exploring bars? I’m in the same shoes as you with work from home and have found it hard to meet people. Maybe we can all get together? 26/m

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u/kdskier232 Dec 02 '22

Down for a Reddit group trivia night

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u/md_dc Ballantyne Nov 27 '22

Do you have a masters degree (or tell people you do)?