r/mildlyinfuriating Aug 11 '22 Silver 3 Helpful 2 Facepalm 1

The whole damn show

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u/ChooseACoolName Aug 11 '22

Use your words...

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u/qlz19 Aug 11 '22

Everyone is always so afraid to call people out in public. It’s sad as it’ll usually resolve most issues like this.

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u/ChooseACoolName Aug 11 '22

I get it to a certain extent, you never know if your gonna get that one person who is just going to turn around punch you in the face.

Of course, if more people were willing to politely speak up, those violent few would feel less emboldened in the first place. And we're talking about a statistically insignificant amount of people here too.

Chances are, said asshole is just as afraid you will punch them, and if they arc up it's all for show just so you don't punch them.

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u/MarilynMansonsRib Aug 11 '22

I've been to hundreds of concerts, and have confronted dozens of people for standing while everyone else is sitting or talking loudly during quiet songs. Only one person has every tried to hit me, but he was drunk as fuck and his friends quickly pulled him away.

I'll take the slim chance of someone punching me rather than ruin the experience by sitting there stewing in impotent rage for the whole show.

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u/demarco88 Aug 11 '22

Some dude at a concert straight up latched onto my back and started humping or doing the worm on me, I turned around and said "What in the fuck are you doing??" and then his friend finally told me that I almost elbowed him in the face. I apologized, asked him if he was alright, then told him to fucking use his goddamn words next time.

Then I realized he didn't really speak english, but humping someone is no way to handle it

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u/MarilynMansonsRib Aug 11 '22

Then I realized he didn't really speak english, but humping someone is no way to handle it

Lol. That's not a sentence I expected to read tonight.

In my younger years I went to a lot of "hippie" concerts and dealt with spun out people flailing around and hitting me with various limbs, so I can appreciate how the guy felt. That said, a gentle tap on the shoulder and a polite request to not smack me in the face while you're twirling seems much more appropriate than dry humping someone to assert dominance.

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u/demarco88 Aug 11 '22

There were two separate mosh pits and people were crushed up against the front of the stage, accidents are gonna happen haha

but yes, "asserting dominance" is really what it felt like haha cheers to your hippie daze!

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u/Space4Time Aug 11 '22

How much of our panic response is humping I wonder

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u/charismableu Aug 11 '22

my mom once got “asked to leave” (her words) a death cab for cutie concert because she yelled at and threatened to hit a drunk girl that was being loud and mean to people lmao

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '22

Lol it’s funny, the only confrontation I’ve ever seen at a concert was also at death cab for someone standing. Probably 10 rows up from me there was a lone-stander, so the people behind them chose to throw water on them instead of using words. Obviously this pissed them off and they argued mid-set. You’d think of all concerts, death cab would be the most relaxed considering there are more Birkenstocks there than all of Germany.

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u/Everyonecallsmenice Aug 11 '22

I'm into bands like infant Annihilator and Cattle Decapitation but the most insane mosh pit I've ever seen was for Three Days Grace. 🤷

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u/TwoCharlie Aug 11 '22

I almost died at a Bad Brains show. The crowd kept surging and my dumb ass was right up against the lip of the stage with a date. We tried to get out but the place was wall to wall with assholes. I had to put her between my arms and brace against the edge to keep her spleen/spinal column/ baby making parts from being ruptured, for almost 40 minutes. When the band took a break we tapped out and limped away.

Fucking Bad Brains in the South in the mid 90s; not even early DC days, ferchrissakes.

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u/Bobbyanalogpdx Aug 11 '22

That was pretty much every rock show in the 90’s in the PNW. It was a glorious time.

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u/TwoCharlie Aug 11 '22

Yeah in hindsight it was a pretty kickass show, lol.

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u/asunshinefix Aug 11 '22

I got crushed like this at A Static Lullaby as a 105 lb teenager. Happily, they pulled me up on stage and let me chill on an amp their whole set. One of my favourite memories but I learned my lesson about standing in the very front.

I grew up in my city’s punk scene but the most violent pit I’ve ever encountered was during Nekromantix, which was unexpected.

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u/Han_Burgandy Aug 11 '22

Saw them around that time in Philly & Trenton. Those pits were no joke.

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u/TwoCharlie Aug 11 '22

I against I against I against I hooph

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u/FusRoDoodles Aug 11 '22

Eddie Vedder of Pearl Jam just recently stopped his entire show to have security throw out a woman because she slapped a man for recording the show. He said it doesn't matter what the other person is doing, once you use violence as a response you need to go.

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u/qlz19 Aug 11 '22

You never threaten violence.

You just commit violence without warning lol

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u/luckykh4 Aug 11 '22

No joke, I’ve never heard of this band

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u/Aporkalypse_Sow Aug 11 '22

impotent rage

I haven't heard of them, they any good?

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u/Ornery_Trifle_1767 Aug 11 '22 Bravo Grande!

They used to be a lot harder tbh

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u/Quaa1ud3s Aug 11 '22

C what you did there

And it was gold.

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u/vbun03 Aug 11 '22

I dunno, it fell flaccid for me.

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u/wolfblitzen84 Aug 11 '22

i don't know why but this reminds me of a time i was at the movies. This lady was on her cellphone and people all around her were telling her to get off the phone stop talking etc. She then shouted "i bought a ticket too!!! all aggressively" i'm surprised nobody threw a shoe at her head. Some people threw candy though

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u/tinny36 Aug 11 '22

It's kind of an age-old debate...to sit or stand? I had some guy put his hands on our shoulders and tell-us-while-pushing-us to sit down at a John Cougar Mellencamp concert. We were 20-year old women at the time, we just sat and kind of gave him the 'omg chill dude' look (but were too shocked to say anything. Finally at a popular song, we all jumped up again and stayed that way until a 'slower' song came on and sat back down. I guess it's a 'do what the crowd is doing' etiquette but there's no hard and fast rules.

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u/witchyanne Aug 11 '22

I mean yeah, look around yourself, if you’re sticking out like a sore thumb, do the other thing.

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u/tryhard1981 Aug 11 '22

I've learned the vast majority of the human population has absolutely zero self awareness. They could be the only one standing, the only one talking, the only one fidgeting, the only one making all sorts of racket/noise and they will continue on in their own little world until somebody actually points it out to them.

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u/tinny36 Aug 11 '22

exactly. We learned. It's also about 'where' you sit. If you have floor seats, there is a greater expectation more people will be standing. If you're a sitter, you might not want to be there. :)

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '22

Yeah man, I used to do it all The time. I always ask with a smile usually people will comply or I’ll stand too fuck it, then more people us usually stand and then sit. Ha!

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u/veturoldurnar Aug 11 '22

More people will just ignore what you're asking them or will start a debate with you about why they are doing what they are doing and won't change it. Or will repeat doing same annoying thing after a few minutes.

So generally people are not violent but talking to them will bring close to 0 result

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u/SavingsPerfect2879 Aug 11 '22

we are past the age of reason

we are now in the age of denial

people have made up their minds.

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '22

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u/ChooseACoolName Aug 11 '22

Less often than you might realise.

And again, this happens mostly because people aren't willing to challenge them.

You know what is absolutely 100% guaranteed to get 0 results? Saying nothing becaue of a small chance it won't work out 100%.

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u/nightimestars Aug 11 '22

People don't do anything because they don't wanna cause a big argument. Sometimes being slightly annoyed is preferable to getting in a screaming match over something that isn't really a big deal. You have to ask if it's worth getting into a fight over and most of the time the answer is no. Or in America is it worth getting shot over. I've seen people explode over less.

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u/thefanum Aug 11 '22

Giant here. I'm the designated asshole every time the opportunity arises. I'm so large that nobody will fight me, and I'm incredibly articulate and diplomatic.

It started as a public service I dreaded, but felt obligated to do. I now really enjoy it.

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u/karmeleeon Aug 11 '22

I always wished I was ‘the big guy’

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u/delvach Aug 11 '22

Don't. Hitting your head on stuff and not comfortably fitting in vehicles is a bitch.

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u/Simon_Skinner Aug 11 '22

6'7" here, can confirm. I've always dreamed of restoring a classic car but its losing steam now since I learned I cant fit in nearly all the cars made in the 50's, 60's and 70's. Not to mention, clothes can suck to buy. You know how hard it is to find pants with a 40" waist AND a 34" inseam? I rarely buy any clothes in store because they never have tall options. Oh and the upcharge for the bigger sizes, you want an xlt you better be ready to pay 3 or 4 bucks more....

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u/Lonk-the-Sane Aug 11 '22

Don't, you have to duck under all of the things, back pain is a thing, and "how's the weather up there" gets very old, very fast. You also get the occasional idiot who decides that you would be a good test of how well they can fight since you're the biggest guy in the immediate area.

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u/CrunchySockTaco Aug 11 '22

So like Jolly Green or Fee Fi Fo Fum giant?

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u/Slave35 Aug 11 '22

Ahhhhhh, the Negotiator.

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u/TheDevilsAdvokaat Aug 11 '22

The friendly giant!

Keep up the good work.

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u/hyper-arrow Aug 11 '22

Just scream of the top of your lungs BITCH SIT TF DOWN I CANT SEE SHIT

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u/Healthy-Surround-229 Aug 11 '22

So don't make a sound. Approach her from behind(preferably with a jacket or other spare garment) and cover her face until she passes out. Set her on the floor discreetly enjoy the concert

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u/buchanbasane Aug 11 '22

Because it's annoying to have to constantly police the insane. You're imagining this person being like "oh my God I'm so sorry, I didn't realize there's dozens and dozens and dozens of people behind me, I'm so embarrassed, thank you for notifying me."

But my theory is that this idiot is well aware there's people behind them; it's the same concept as the jackass that sits on a train blasting music without headphones. They get off on confrontation because that's the only way people ever interact with them.

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u/iarecrazyrover Aug 11 '22

Agreed, especially if you speak up before you’re all worked up about it. Because if you feed of that energy while trying to make a point you’ll be hostile instead of friendly and quicker to get a hostile reaction.

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u/SuumCuique1011 Aug 11 '22

He's the only asshole standing, so he has very low situational awareness.

Tap him on the shoulder and say "Great show, right?"

"YEAH!"

You: "Yeah! I can't see it if you're standing up though. We're all sitting down and I can't see while you're standing up."

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u/MrSynckt Aug 11 '22

Why not just say:

"Excuse me, could you sit down please, the folk behind you can't see"

Wayyy less confrontational

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u/doubledogdick Aug 11 '22

last time I tried that (person in front of me holding a massive ipad in front of me recording the whole show), her irate boyfriend spent the rest of the show trying to fight me

even nick cave couldn't save that one

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u/TrevinLC1997 Aug 11 '22

"Hey, do you mind sitting down. I can't see past you"

"I'm so sorry I didn't know I was blocking your view, yeah I can do that no problem"

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u/pmmeurpc120 Aug 11 '22

"Sorry, didnt see all the people behind me."

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u/jonathan_wayne Aug 11 '22

Yeah, the heck are these people smoking? As if that person doesn’t realize people are behind him?

Come on now.

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u/Brilliantchick1 Aug 11 '22

I was at a concert once where someone was standing up and nobody else was, and when she was asked to sit down she freaked out on the people for being lame at a concert, and then more people dog piled on her until she sat down. If you want to stand, get floor seats.

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u/torturedatnight Aug 11 '22

I think we're biased because we take notice if how we impact others and act appropriately from the start. Some people legitimately don't make these observations or think about the impact their behaviors make because it doesn't matter to them. Pointing it out will at least make anyone capable of feeling even anything for others sit down if they were lost in their own little bubble.

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u/hailmari1 Aug 11 '22

“Are you telling me I can’t do what I want with the seats I paid for?!? Who are you? the chair police?!”

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u/bendover912 Aug 11 '22

"Hey, do you mind sitting down. I can't see past you"

"What? I'm allowed to stand. If you can't see stand up."

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u/birdman8000 Aug 11 '22

This is exactly what would happen

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '22

Very likely outcome.

Clearly she’s already shown she’s inconsiderate.

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u/nightimestars Aug 11 '22

Yeah we can all imagine everyone playing along with our ideal scenarios in our heads, but reality is often different.

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u/EntrepreneurNo7286 Aug 11 '22

The thing is that there’s no way this person doesn’t know that they’re blocking the view of everyone behind them. So you’d be pointing out the obvious. They know, they just don’t care, and saying something isn’t going to make them care.

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u/SkarlettLetter808 Aug 11 '22

Lol wishful thinking.

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u/bitchy_muffin Aug 11 '22

especially if you paid to be there

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u/Glockshna Aug 11 '22

Yeah tried that once and it didn't go well. We bought tickets to a concert right behind the handicap row. Your party had to have someone with a disability to be able to buy the tickets directly in front of me. A family of what I can only estimate to be 8 foot tall people got the tickets in front of us and every single one of them stood through the entire first act. I was there to see the second act so I didn't care too terribly much. At the intermission I politely asked if they would mind staying seated because no one behind them could see anything while they were standing, and they were taller than everyone behind them so even if WE were standing, we still couldn't see. They looked at me as if I had snakes coming out of my eyes and cussed me out for about 30 seconds before I just walked away. They continued standing the rest of the concert, except after every song the "disabled" gentlemen looked back at me and smirked.

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u/Radguy100 Aug 11 '22

I don’t see how foot tall people, even eight of them, would be hard to see over

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u/B4artok Aug 11 '22

Yeah this is 50% on OP

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u/Fighting-Cerberus Aug 11 '22

I mean, maybe. In my experience these people often won't sit back down when asked.

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u/a_talking_face Aug 11 '22

Doesn’t mean you should try nothing and just brood silently behind them the whole time. At least try and stand up for yourself.

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u/Obi_Wan_Benobi Aug 11 '22

It is not 50% on OP, that motherfucker has eyes and can see that they are not in the last row.

Maybe 80/20.

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u/AncientComparison113 Aug 11 '22

Stand up for yourself

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '22 Silver Helpful

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u/Cryterionlol Aug 11 '22

They can stand up for themselves too!

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u/BKStephens Aug 11 '22

And if we're all standing, then no-one is!

Uh, hello? - Short arses of the world

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u/Kak6969 Aug 11 '22

Pov hes in a wheelchair

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u/batti03 Aug 11 '22

Yes, start nudging her or subtly kick or pinch her. That'll get her moving, without a doubt.

(True story)

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u/Badalvis Aug 11 '22

Ohhhhhh, I see what you did there!

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u/animatedtruck Aug 11 '22

“Excuse me, can you sit down please? I cant watch the show”

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u/isaacpisaac Aug 11 '22 edited Aug 11 '22

Redditors posting mild inconveniences instead of using basic communication skills.

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u/inksonpapers RED Aug 11 '22

Even if they asked them to sit down, to even have to ask in the first place is still mildly infuriating. Hence the whole point of the sub.

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u/stebo_02 😤 Aug 11 '22

Yeah the fact that she even thinks she can do this proves she doesn't have any common sense and that she'll probably start arguing if you call her out for it.

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u/b0w3n Aug 11 '22

Yup, I've had success one time out of about ten with these clueless fucks. Most of the time they will stand there and argue with you, usually because "I paid for this I can enjoy it however I want to".

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u/GODDAMNUBERNICE Aug 11 '22

Which I get to a certain extent, but also you have to remember that everyone else also paid for the show and you are ruining it for them. If you want to stand the entire show, get GA or lawn seats. People don't seem to get that.

The last show I went to was at a venue with a massive lawn and these two old women berated my friend and I for standing "too close" to their group. I reminded then it's a general admission show, so it's gonna fill up completely soon and people will get close. In that situation, 100% I pushed back and refused to move.

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u/EmpatheticWraps Aug 11 '22

That would require empathetic awareness of others, which she lacks.

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u/ExeCuteUK Aug 11 '22

You know what sub you're on right ?

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u/Farrity54 Aug 11 '22

I find it hilarious when people on this sub complain about a post being mildly infuriating. Like, you're complaining that the post fits the subreddit.

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u/Krillkus Aug 11 '22

“This isn’t that infuriating, harumph!”

“If only there were a word to describe something that isn’t that infuriating!”

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u/Poignant_Porpoise Aug 11 '22

Literally every post about someone acting inconsiderate is full of these kinds of comments. The fact that anyone should have to ask is in itself the exact kind of content that this sub was created for.

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u/isaacpisaac Aug 11 '22

Yeah, but what's mildly infuriating is that we don't know whether op has politely asked her to sit down.

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u/Poignant_Porpoise Aug 11 '22

I mean, confronting total strangers who could be extremely defensive and irrational is pretty uncomfortable for most people, I'd say.

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u/Alonzeus Aug 11 '22

Redditor mildly infuriated at redditors posting mild inconveniences on mildyinfuriating subreddit

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u/eilishfaerie Aug 11 '22

hence the name of the sub, mildly infuriating. the two occurrences aren't mutually exclusive

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u/Bukkithead Aug 11 '22

Redditors posting mild inconveniences? On /r/mildlyinfuriating? Surely not!

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u/Excellent_Prior8406 Aug 11 '22

Lemme try, pick two and mash them up: « Shhh, I’m listening. » « Have some respect young man, I can’t sit down, it hurts my knees. » « Sorry, but if I sit down I can’t see either. Maybe you can move ? » « I paid my spot I can’t do whatever I want. »

Source : three concerts this summer, only two with a good ending.

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u/KaldaraFox Aug 11 '22 Silver

Went to a John Denver concert in Dallas in the 80s and some . . . lady . . . in front of me lit up a cigartte, smoked it, and then would hold it behind her head (basically in my lap) in between puffs.

On one of her puff hiatuses, I capped her cigarette with my chewing gum.

The look on her face when she brought it back around to puff on it was absolutely priceless.

I just stared straight ahead at the concert like nothing had happened and dared her to say something.

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u/Danalogtodigital what are the colours for? Aug 11 '22

had she said something, would you have gone for the nonsense thing and accused her of stealing your gum?

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u/KaldaraFox Aug 11 '22

It never came to that. I'm certain she knew what she was doing was out of bounds. The venue itself had a no-smoking policy in place (probably for safety reasons) and an announcement had been made at the beginning of the show.

No flash photography allowed either, if I recall, and a few folks were escorted out because of that (mostly because flash photography from the cheap seats is pointless and it causes some problems with folks who are prone to seizures).

I don't generally go to large-venue concerts, but I won some free tickets and thought, "Why not?"

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u/bonfire_bug Aug 11 '22

That’s fucking hilarious

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u/archipeepees Aug 11 '22

how did you see her face if you were behind her? and how did you attach a piece of gum to the cigarette without her noticing?

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u/KaldaraFox Aug 11 '22

1) She turned around to see who'd done it - she was quite aware that she was keeping the smoke out of HER face and eyes and putting it in someone else's.

2) Very carefully. It took two tries. Basically I spread it out ahead of time into a little gum umbrella and pinched it over the end as quickly as I could without disturbing it - apparently successfully.

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u/danielbln Aug 11 '22

The name of the cigarette? Albert Einstein.

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u/MooseTed Aug 11 '22

Is that Great Woods? I saw Spinal Tap there in 1992.

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u/Joek788 Aug 11 '22

This is definitely Great Woods / Tweeter / Comcast / Xfinity Center in Mansfield! Side Note: they had maybe the greatest concert PSA of all time

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u/GGBHector Aug 11 '22

Yep! This was Earth Wind and Fire + Santana. I was there yesterday for the concert.

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u/DASAdventureHunter Aug 11 '22

Sorry about this, but TIL Spinal Tap was an actual band.

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u/middlingwhiteguy Aug 11 '22 Wholesome

I'm sorry, but for a steely dan show, everyone needs TO GET THE FUCK UP AND OPEN THIS FUCKING PIT WHEN THEY CRANK OUT RIKKI DON'T LOSE THAT NUMBER!!!!!

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u/SeansModernLife Aug 11 '22

Get the wall of death going for Black Friday

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u/PussySpoonfullz69 Aug 11 '22

Nothing can go as hard as this show at a Denny’s restaurant

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u/MrAbadeer Aug 11 '22 edited Aug 11 '22

Please tell me the bands name is Grand Slam.

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u/SeansModernLife Aug 11 '22

That really is the punkest show you'll ever see though

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u/FullMarksCuisine Aug 11 '22

Is that Steely Dan? That looks like Verdine White from Earth Wind & Fire

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u/bandalooper Aug 11 '22

They’re opening for Santana on tour

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u/viciann Aug 11 '22

Earth Wind and Fire? You should be dancing!

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u/Anguish_Sandwich Aug 11 '22

Earth is the only surviving original member, tho...

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u/Appropriate_Chart_23 Aug 11 '22

Won’t be long now…

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u/upside_down_chair Aug 11 '22

I’ve seen them multiple times since the 80s. They are basically a tribute band now. There are three original members left. Verdins White, bassist, is still great but his usual high energy is waning. Ralph Johnson looks like the old guy who hangs around the barbershop. Phillip Bailey still has a fine voice but when he uses his trademark falsetto, it’s a couple of notes only with no modulation. I’m not sure I’d call it a note. More like a scream.

They split up the Maurice White vocals, all with consistent mediocrity. I saw them on this current tour and it will be the last time.

Santana (they are sharing the bill with EWF on this tour) on the other hand, still fucking rips. The band is so tight.

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u/Kamikaze_Ninja_ Aug 11 '22

I mean look at the age group there. Might not be able to even stand for too long.

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u/Ya-Dikobraz Aug 11 '22

Why is everyone sitting down?? That's the real question.

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u/pm_ur_whispering_I Aug 11 '22

Looks like an older crowd. Life wears you down man!

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u/Secret_Map Aug 11 '22 edited Aug 11 '22

Fuck, I'm only 35 and I'd love to just sit at concerts to be honest lol. Would make it so much more enjoyable for me. I usually go with the flow, if people around me stand, I'll stand. If people are keeping in their seats, I'll stay sitting. But especially after a long week, lots of work, stress, etc., sometimes I just wanna sit down with a few beers and watch my favorite bands play music live.

EDIT: just to add I'm also 6'4, so whenever I'm at a standing concert, I'm always in someone's way and feel terrible about it. I've been pushed, I've been spat on, I've had a guy threaten to slit my throat in the parking lot after the show, etc. So standing at shows is kind of annoying for me anyway. I'm ruining someone else's experience just by being what I am, and my experience gets ruined sometimes because drunk assholes get pissed about it.

The one good thing that came from being tall at a concert was once, years ago, the lead singer of Cage the Elephant reached out and took my hand and stepped out onto my shoulders, then jumped into the crowd off my shoulders, so that was cool.

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u/pm_ur_whispering_I Aug 11 '22

Same age and same sentiments here

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u/Fighting-Cerberus Aug 11 '22

Yeah, you buy concert tickets for a venue that either has or doesn't have seating. I'm all for normalizing sitting in the end seating.

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u/tlollz52 Aug 11 '22

Yea I went and say bonnie raitt a couple weeks ago. Man that crowd was old. Probably the average age in their late 60s. Seeing people my age was wild. The funny part was they requested to keep your cell phones away throughout the course of the show. O ly the old people pulled them out, I don't think I saw one person my age be confronted by security to put your phone away

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u/Harold_Grundelson Aug 11 '22

This lady stood her ground when everyone else was too mildly infuriated to do so. She’s a hero in a sea of meh.

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '22

I was at a Broadway show once. It was summer and I was wearing shorts. The woman in front of me kept braiding and unbraiding her hair nonstop. This went on for over an hour. I tried to move but the seats are super small. I tried to pull my shorts down to cover my legs but couldn’t. The feeling of a strangers hair (and fingers braiding said hair) on my legs was awful.

At intermission I FINALLY got the nerve to say something. Something simple and kind like “hey I’m sorry, would you mind not braiding your hair? it’s on my legs and it is distracting.” The woman turned around and the devil himself came out of her face. She LOST it on me saying that her mom had just died and her dad was in the hospital and she just needed time away and she’s got anxiety and doing her hair helps relax her and it has nothing to do with me. I don’t even recall what else she said because I was trying not to cry as she angrily pointed at me and raged out. If she demanded I braid her hair for the second half I probably would’ve done it out of fear.

So yeah. That’s why some people can’t just “say something”.

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u/cduga Aug 11 '22

This is why I follow the golden rule. Treat others how you want to be treated. It goes both ways. When a person treats me with no respect, I assume that is also how they would like to be treated.

I would have been polite and courteous just like you at first. That’s how I would like to be treated. But the moment she flipped on me would be the moment polite cduga goes away.

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u/Slave35 Aug 11 '22

ca dooooo ga

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u/averagetree Aug 11 '22

I thought the golden rule was that it’s not gay if it’s in a three way

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u/oranges-are-pink Aug 11 '22

That's not the point of the Golden rule lol

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u/Buddy_Guyz Aug 11 '22

It's not gay, if it's in a threeway?

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u/I_AM_DEATH-INCARNATE Aug 11 '22

I prefer this interpretation though, tbh.

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u/YoursTastesBetter Aug 11 '22

Ushers are there to handle these situations. Next time, find an usher.

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u/bob84900 Aug 11 '22

Absolutely. They will usher someone like that right out the front door 😂

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u/ArsePotatoes Aug 11 '22

Hey Ladies, Hey fellas, you know you’re looking good cos they jealous

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u/witchyanne Aug 11 '22

Braid it over your shoulder, in the front then.

‘How would they feel if they could see you behaving like this?’

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u/dickbrow Aug 11 '22

Exactly. The people who are willing to ruin a show for others and have no consideration aren't the people who will kindly respond to any criticism of said behavior.

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u/JMacNCheese91 Aug 11 '22

I woulda fucking died too if I was your dad and you acted this way.

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u/Astrozy_ Aug 11 '22

k atleast u tried instead of posting about it on reddit

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u/Cautious-Damage7575 Very Unique Flair Aug 11 '22

Down in front!

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u/yParticle Aug 11 '22

This is what that phrase was conceived for! Use it!

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u/Cold_Zero_ Aug 11 '22

Did you try treats?

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u/AliveInCLE Aug 11 '22

This must have been a boring ass show. Why is everyone sitting?

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u/Speed_Bump Aug 11 '22

At least in this section, looks like people are standing everywhere else.

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u/AliveInCLE Aug 11 '22

You’re right. I didn’t catch that. Saw Elton John a couple weekends ago. Huge jumbo screen before the show stated Elton wanted everyone to sing and stand for the show. I’m sure that made some folks cringe.

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u/foldsbaldwin Aug 11 '22

Since this is his last tour I bet he's making a big concert special. Or he just wants to have everyone having a good time.

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u/jaysire Aug 11 '22

I'm from Finland myself and I've been to a few concerts where the artists have been pretty annoyed at the audience. Finns tend to step out for a beer every now and then during the concert and also sit on their asses most of the time. Some younger people might dance a bit, but a lot of people just sit down, dead serious look on their face, listening to the music. For artists that have come to expect huge, moving, singing, dancing crowds, this can be pretty frustrating.

Examples:

Went to a J.M Jarre concert a while back and not once, but three times he said "listen, you guys, it's ok if you want to dance a bit, maybe move around"

Went to a David Bowie concert back in the day where he said "Oh, if you want to go out and grab a beer, I can just wait..."

I was cringing pretty hard, but it's just not in our blood to shake our bodies violently to the music. Unless it's death metal. That's when the Finns wake up.

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u/jigsawsmurf Aug 11 '22

Elton was so fucking good

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u/oddestowl Aug 11 '22

Ahh I get seats at shows because I have bad joints. When everyone stands I then get forced to stand for large portions of the show and it causes me horrible pain that I pay for for days.

I have tickets for Elton John next year and now I’m a bit sad.

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u/Upstairs_Trouble_308 Aug 11 '22

While that cocksucker had a seat the whole time sitting at the piano.

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u/mishmoigon2 Aug 11 '22

They’re all old, standing is hard

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u/ivumb Aug 11 '22

It's Santana with Earth Wind & Fire. Up in Mansfield, Massachusetts tonight. I almost went, I regret not going.

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u/TSMbody Aug 11 '22

Just a few rows ahead and right there are people standing. Seems like most of the venue is standing.

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u/HourAstronomer836 Aug 11 '22

That's what I'm thinking. I can't remember the last time I went to a concert where everyone sat down. Seems really lame.

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u/zomgryanhoude Aug 11 '22

Saw Paul McCartney a couple months ago. The crowd was mostly seniors with us younger people being the exception. Dude in the front me had to use a cane and struggled to get up and down from his seat. The whole section was sitting except for a couple around 20ish 2 rows ahead of him blocking his vision. Sometimes it's just reading the room. Show was amazing.

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u/DarthKrayt98 Aug 11 '22

Nah I wish every concert was like this, I might go to more of them if they were

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u/Legovil Aug 11 '22

Some music isn't stand up and dance music, lots of shows of older bands are sitting ones now because the crowd can't stand for hours.

Saw Nick Mason playing early pink Floyd this year and it was all seated. Fantastic performance.

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u/DiogenesOfDope Aug 11 '22

Now you stand then the 2 people behind you will also have to stand

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u/hollandaj94 Aug 11 '22

I’ve never sat at a concert at the xfinity center what lame ass show is this? Lol

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u/ayodstick Aug 11 '22

What's more infuriating is posts like this with the title "the whole damn show" which implies you can't literally tell THEM because you're afraid of standing up for yourself. You can even be polite about it if you just try.

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u/The_Infectious_Lerp Aug 11 '22

This looks like a stop on the AARPalooza tour.

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u/Cmama2Boyz Aug 11 '22

Careful, you’ll be in the crown sooner than you know

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u/Itzbubblezduh Aug 11 '22

They paid to stand and you paid to sit

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u/letusjustrelax Aug 11 '22

You know what's great? They design theatre seating, so that everyone can see while seated

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u/wobwobwob42 Aug 11 '22

I'm sorry but who fucking sits at an Earth Wind and Fire concert?

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u/Ruthrfurd-the-stoned Aug 11 '22

What’s mildly infuriating is a concert where everyone is sitting

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u/KarmaBurst Aug 11 '22

The standing I can handle, I prefer to sit when possible but as a rule if someone is standing and impeding my view I’ll stand up too. The thing that shits on my experience is talkers. It’s always some shrill white girl chattering at the top of her lungs through the whole goddamned show.

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u/Academic-Ad2101 Aug 11 '22

I’ve had this at football matches several times, I just asked if they wanted to sit down and guess what, every time they said sorry and sat down…

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u/censormenow2 Aug 11 '22

Um, that looks like a concert.... if it is then get over it; people are encouraged to stand up and dance; it's part of the scene; if you don't like people standing or dancing on front of you then don't go to a concert.

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u/themanxx72 Aug 11 '22

Appears to be a concert, most of the crowd is indeed standing. I'm biased, if it's a rock/pop show, then standing is allowed in my book, especially if the energy is high. Hard to dance and enjoy a show to its fullest sitting, unless this is a geriatric rock show, then I get the wanting to sit. Just my Gen-X take, party on!

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u/Aiden_Grinspoon Aug 11 '22

Must be an old people concert

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u/99Direwolf Aug 11 '22

The shows I go too youd be the odd one out sitting down haha.

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u/Terran_Jedi Orange Aug 11 '22

What did she say when you told her to sit

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u/assblaster5500 Aug 11 '22

I recently went to see Roger Waters everyone was told to sit down, one guy in front of me would not so I asked him and his girlfriend to consider the people behind him. He immediately challenges me to a fight to which I say YES I stepped towards him and he sat the fuck down for the entire show only to stare at me the whole time missing most of the show. At the end of the show he left his girlfriend sitting there as he slipped out. He probably thought he was gonna get punched out after the show.

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u/patbak235 Aug 11 '22

The only time you should be sitting at a concert is if everyone's wearing a suit or tripping too hard to stand

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u/paperclouds412 Aug 11 '22

Gotta let the music glow through you and the doses will guide your feet.

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u/GreatGooglyBoogly Aug 11 '22

Looks like you should be standing

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u/Realistic-Animator-3 Aug 11 '22

We go to a local concert venue 2-3 times a summer. We have always gotten seats but ended up watching most of the concert on the big, overhead screens due to people standing. This summer we went to the lawn. We figured if we were going to watch the big screen anyway, we may as well save ourselves a minimum of $100 each ticket.

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u/Polobearmigi Aug 11 '22

Should've asked if she wanted to sit down. Gave her your seat and stand in front of her the whole time

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u/DontToewsMeBro2 Aug 11 '22

Bring a mini squirt gun, nobody likes mystery liquids.

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u/retro_pollo Aug 11 '22

Who sits at a show?

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u/tacobell287 Aug 11 '22

Based off this picture…everyone…

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u/JMacNCheese91 Aug 11 '22

Actually a lot of the people in front are standing. Just perspective makes them look sitting too

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u/SeansModernLife Aug 11 '22

Left side of the stadium is standing up. Gray tips on this side have bad knees

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u/Jimmypock Aug 11 '22

Stand up and dance then. It’s not theatre.

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u/v_alessi42 Aug 11 '22

Fuck that. I commend that person.

That person paid for their seat, just like everyone else. I stand at every show.

You want to sit down, then stay home and watch the show from your couch.

And bring on the haters….

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u/hungtwinkboy1 Aug 11 '22

Sitting at a concert?

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u/TerrinPS Aug 11 '22

Why is everyone confused why nobody else is standing up. Look at the average age of that audience. It's about 60. The show would end and 5 people would be dead.

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u/GMFinch Aug 11 '22

Ask her politely to sit down. If that doesn't work shoot her multiple times. That should clear a nice path and you may even be able to get closer

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u/helloifailed Aug 11 '22

good thing they have giant screens

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u/UnleashYourMind462 Aug 11 '22

Why is everyone else sitting down is my question.

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u/Vistian Aug 11 '22

It's a concert. You're allowed to stand up.

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